Lost myself in relationships.
I used to lose myself in relationships. I kept tying my worth to whether other people chose me or whether I was deemed important. I learned to second-guess myself constantly. I thought my needs were a problem — and that expressing them would disappoint people.
So I kept it together on the outside while quietly falling apart on the inside. Eventually, it caught up.
My feelings weren't the problem. My needs weren't too much. Being real wasn't something to hide — it was the thing that changed everything.
That's the work I do with clients now — not just talking about it or understanding it intellectually, but actually changing it.
